Fathers Day

You can't really blame the man who created Fathers Day. After all it sounds like such a harmless idea. A day that is dedicated to Fathers and all their wonderful attributes. What harm could come from such a well meant idea. Unless perhaps you are a couple who has been unsuccessfully trying to have kids and fathers day is just a reminder that you still aren't a parent. Or say your father was not a very nice man so instead of a happy BBQ fathers day reminds you of the abuse you had to endure until you were finally old enough to get away from the sadistic bastard. Maybe he wasn't that bad maybe all he did was cheat on your mom and start a new family that didn't include you. Or maybe you are a father who is stuck in a custody battle and the crazy woman who is the mother of your child won't let you see your kid because you don't have visitation rights on Sundays. Or my personal favorite what if your father isn't around. What if he ran out on you or died. Suddenly Fathers Day doesn't sound like a harmless idea it sounds like a painful, cruel idea, whose only purpose is to remind people of the hurt in their lives.

Sure it might be nice for the people who aren't involved in the above situations. If every father in your life is alive and well and you have no negative connotations associated with fathers day maybe you enjoy fathers day and you think I am being bitter. But here is the thing if you are lucky enough to be one of there perfectly situated people isn't that enough? Do you really need a day to remind you of how wonderful your life is? Is it worth all the pain that you are inflicting on those less fortunate than you? Can't you just be happy all the time that you have a father. And if you want to throw a BBQ for your dad have a great time just leave me out of it. Don't make me endure a month of TV commercials and radio ads reminding me that I no longer have a father. Not to mention the countless signs in every window of any store urging me not to forget that perfect gift for the father I don't have.

When it all comes down to it Fathers day (this applies to mothers day as well) is more pain than it is worth. I will gladly forgo any future mothers day celebrations that I might have if it means sparing those without mothers the pain of enduring the day.

I like to remember my dad when I hear a song that reminds me of him or when I remember a story he told me but I do not enjoy the entire world cramming fathersday down my throat for their own amusement.